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Over the past several years, I’ve taught my coaching members 5 steps to becoming a phenomenally successful person. This teaching gets more response from them than any other, including the business training.
So do you want to change your life or business? Do you want to have more, do more and be more? Do you have some goals? If not, this exercise won’t be much use to you. Remember that being comfortable is different than being content. My philosophy is to be content with what you have, but never be comfortable with who you are. We have much growing to do as human beings.
Zig Ziglar always said “It’s not what you get when you reach for your goals, it’s what you become.” You see, as you stretch yourself, you change. If you want to be a better person, this series is for you. The cool thing is that when you become a more successful person, you’ll end up having more. Not just material things, but better relationships, more satisfaction in life and so on. The material things will follow as we become better people if we have the desire.
What is a phenomenally successful person anyway?
The definition of phe·nom·e·nal is:
- Very remarkable; extraordinary
- Perceptible by the senses or through the immediate experience.
Therefore, a phenomenally successful person is one that:
- Has a level of control over their habits and emotions.
- Is focused, inspired and knows what they want out of life.
- Is diligent and disciplined.
- Has a high score on the “Wheel of Life.”
As you begin to think about a new idea or to change a habit, you’ll go through these five levels...
Level 1: Self-Awareness
You become aware of your thoughts, feelings and habits. You become aware of a new idea, or a new skill you want to develop. You become aware that a change is needed.
Level 2: Willing To Change
People only change through desperation or inspiration. There are many fears and obstacles to get through this level. When we aren’t willing to change, we stay in our comfort zone. And that can become deadly. Like the proverbial frog that slowly boils to death as the water temperature slowly rises, we survive the day. Then one day we wake up and we’re just about cooked! Depending on what you’re trying to change, there’s a great deal of fear behind it. The fear of losing what we have is sometimes too great to move past this level.
Level 3: Controlled Attention
After getting through the fear of Level 2, you move into the stage of controlled attention. You apply a great deal of focus and attention to the new skill, idea or habit. It’s uncomfortable because you’ve never done it before and your body and emotions are screaming at you like a baby crying for a bottle because they’ve become so accustomed to the old you.
Level 4: Commitment
When you become committed to a new lifestyle, habit or routine, you become more persistent and consistent. You are now hitting stride and getting results. Your confidence increases because of that. Your confidence might even turn into inspiration. The trouble with desperation is that once you’re back in your comfort zone, you begin to relax.
If you start getting results, and the confidence builds, it can turn to inspiration, which can carry you for awhile until you become committed to the new lifestyle. Commitment is not the end. It’s just the level you must get to in order to enter Level 5...
Level 5: Character
Level 5 is when you have truly become the person you want to be. Level 5 is when your habits and values have changed. Your life and destiny is determined by your values. You do what you value and you value what you do. Therefore, your habits control you. The character level is where you’ve successfully shed the old habit and replaced it with a new one.
How do you know you’ve reached this level? Only time will tell. You might think you’re in the Character Level, but you’ve just been in the Commitment Level for a long time.
Something interesting to note is that each of the levels stay with you as you move up. For example, self-awareness runs through all of the levels. At “willing to change,” you will stay aware of your thoughts, feelings and actions to uncover the fears, the roadblocks and the challenges that you are going through as you decide whether doing the hard work of Level 2 is worth it or not.
The best news is that you can change. It’s more difficult today because many of us don’t learn basic disciplines as children as we once did. Modern conveniences and allowing the media to think for us has caused us to be lazy thinkers full of fear and doubt. Don’t let that happen to you.
Remember who you are. You are a phenomenal product, created to do phenomenal things and to have a phenomenal life. You were born to win. You were designed for accomplishment, engineered for success and endowed with the seeds of greatness. You can do this!
Over the next several months, I’ll go into further detail on each level with you, so that you can become the person you want to become.